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雖然我有太多太多太多小朋友, 但係我最中意都係欣欣。 我都知道自己專一又偏心...哈哈...每日訓醒, 我都將佢地放好先出門口。 夜晚要同欣欣請安, 要有15分鐘的quality time呀~
請安中...佢有波點絲帶, 我有波點晨褸
望住佢, 就會好開心
攬住佢, 諗緊要俾佢讀咩小學...哈哈...佢就快6歲喇, 要升小一。 最好有劍橋大學附屬小學俾佢讀.
仲諗, 佢個手冊爸爸0個欄, 要寫邊個呢~ 佢應該跟我姓，叫飯欣欣嗎?
每晚訓覺都係咁樣一齊訓.
來一個擁抱, 媽媽我要去做功課啦~
媽媽閃開~
周一的時候真的很倒霉, 用不熱的水洗澡(是整個宿舍都沒熱水), 結果呢, 現在想要生病了...趕緊喝了感冒茶, 也吃了很多的生果...
11月了, 天氣變得很冷, 昨天走路回家的時候, 覺得雙腳快要結冰了。
今天在library看論文看到差不多7點才回家, 天都黑漆漆的了, 走著走著, 決定回家做好吃的給自己打氣。
涼拌蕃茄 - 用白糖拌好, 再放冰箱10分鐘就好了, 簡單又可口的一道菜。
麻辣火雞豆腐(加韓國粉絲墊底) -看起來很糟的一堆東西, 其實吃很來還不錯的。 將豆腐冷藏, 變成凍豆腐, 再將之與火雞同宗, 後加麻辣醬料及粉絲, 多煮2分鐘, 即成。
麻辣的味道, 令我想起了從前跟四川flatmate同住的回憶。 做學生真的很好, 可以一起做美味的食物, 可以聊天聊到忘記了時間, 可以一起旅遊。 能夠一起生活一年, 真的是幸福的事。
又係咪咪廚房既時間喇. 今日呢, 要俾大家睇下之前煮0左既食物.
近來真係煮野食煮到癲0左, 超中意試下d新野. 今次依個撈米粉, 之前未煮過. 雖然個concept好簡單, 但係唔知點解, 之前就係無煮過...哈哈哈...
我好癲呀, 今日想起, 下次可以試下煮豆腐時加d茶入去煮, 應該會好香...
"只要有夢想, 凡事可成真", 相距了6,000哩, 但是我還是每天的發夢.....希望可以用半年的時間好好的準備, 在回家的時候, 好好的為一個人用心的造出合意的食物...只是, 人家喜歡吃什麼呢? 可能中意食fax...一日到刻收fax..哈哈哈......
如果可以, 我希望我的時間多花在美食創作上, 而不是在招股書及/或公告、通函的創作上......
講番今次既食物先....
依個係火腿沙律, 有羅馬生菜, 番茄, 加上薄薄的PARMA HAM, 再係面到灑上Balsamic vinegar=awesome + wonderful + fresh + yummy!!! 已經無其他野可以講...
my favorite recipe, 係剛熟的linguine加入pesto拌好, 係面上加上melted cheese, 再灑上dried parsley 
依堆野個樣麻麻地, 但係食起來都唔錯的. 花0左好多時間幫d芽菜摘去頭頭尾尾, 炒0左, 再煮好個豉油火雞件, 拌米粉吃, 好好的組合! 因為米粉將d汁索曬, 好入味.
source: http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/10/26/ctw.afghanistan.sex.trade/index.html
Kabul, Afghanistan (CNN) -- A young boy dressed in women's clothing, his face caked in make-up, dances the night away for a crowd of men.
The bells on his feet chime away, mimicking the entertainment and sexual appeal of female dancers. But there is no mistaking his pubescent body and face as he concentrates, focusing on every step in order to please his master and his master's guests.
This all played out in a video that CNN obtained from a person involved in the parties.
The boy is but one youth among many throughout the country forced into an age-old underground tradition known as "bacha bazi," or "boy play," in which young boys are taken from their families, made to dance and used as sex slaves by powerful men. The number of boys involved is unknown -- the practice has been going on for centuries, in a country where such practices are overshadowed by conflict and war.
"It's pretty much unappreciated by [the] society, unaccepted and illegal," said Mohammad Musa Mahmodi of the Afghan Independent Human Rights Commission, one of the few organizations in the country working to end "bacha bazi."
Islamic scholars have denounced "bacha bazi" as immoral but the practice continues in Afghanistan, where the government is in the throes of an increasingly bloody battle with insurgent Taliban militants and is also working to recover from decades of conflict.
The abuse stays on the backburner of issues in Afghanistan. People are aware of it, but they don't really talk about it. Almost everyone in the country is coping with some level of injustice, and they are just trying to survive.
It is widely known among the population that, most of the time it is commanders, high-ranking officials and their friends who partake in the abuse of the boys.
"It continues because of the culture of impunity and lack of legal provision against this practice," Mahmodi explained.
Farhad,19, and Jamel, 20, are two grown dancers who were forced into "bacha bazi" about five years ago.
Farhad was 13 when his older neighbor tricked him into coming to his home. He was made to watch a sex tape and then raped. After the brutal assault, he was taken to another location where he was locked up and used as a sex slave for five months.
"I got used to him," Farhad said, trying to explain why he stayed with his neighbor after the traumatizing experience.
"He would sometimes take me to parties, and sometimes other places. I was with him all the time," he said.
In Afghan society the victims of rape and assault --- both male and female --- are often persecuted and punished rather than the perpetrator. The shame forces boys like Farhad to continue in leading such lifestyles, even when they have the chance to break away.
Jamel, Farhad's friend and dance partner, is now married but he was the "bacha bereesh" -- or "boy without a beard" -- of a powerful warlord who has since left the country. He said the only reason he continues to dance is to provide for his younger brothers and sisters.
"I make them study, dress them, feed them. Any money I make I spend on my family. I don't want them to be like this, be like me," he said, brushing his shoulder length hair away from his eyes, framing his thin oval face.
Farhad and Jamel say their families know what is going on now but are powerless to stop it -- in fact they need the money and income they make.
Both Jamel and Farhad look and act more like women than men, a trait that can be deadly in Afghanistan's male-dominated society. Even the police can't be counted on for protection.
Farhad said that he was taken from a party by four police officers one night and almost gang raped at the station Before their commander walked in and stopped the assault. But then, "He said if I wanted to be set free I should give him my money and my mobile," Farhad said. "I had no real choice, so I gave him my money and mobile."
The boys said they are continuously threatened, beaten and raped by men who attend the parties they dance at; parties fueled by alcohol and drugs.
"The nights we go out, we are scared," said, Jamel, who is the more talkative of the pair and the one who more resembles a woman. "We always think about how we will be able to get out without someone attacking us."
Despite the dangers, they continue to dance, making $30 for the night -- a night that usually ends in assault -- because they say it is the only thing they know and their only way to make money. There are no opportunities in Afghanistan for people like them.
And once branded as men who danced as women, there is no turning back.
"We are not happy with this line of work," Jamel said. "We say that it would be better if God could just kill us rather than living like this."
When i read this, i am just scared and shocked.......how on earth can there be such a terrible tradition? who initiated this evil tradition? that person deserved the worst torture.......
Let's pray for the victims and let Jesus lead them out of this horrible situation.
食formal hall真係好開心, 因為可以扮harry potter...不過係自己college自要扮著gown, 去人地college食formal hall係唔洗既..所以我去clare college到食, 都唔洗著gown lu...好中意佢地個old hall, 超靚......
overall, d食物水準, 由appetizer-main course-dessert都好好食, 9.5GBP, great value for money!
美中不足既係0個日友人要趕火車, 所以我地好趕, 8點半就閃0左......
依個係appetizer, 係fish cake + 小小potato mash
好中意依個牛油呀! 超cute!
main course係curry beef with rice, 唔錯.
依個tiramisu, 係史上最強既出品, 從心的喜歡你!
(註:以下談的觀點偏離一般社會觀念， 旨在提出己見，非要說服任何人接受我的意見。)
男人三十而立。 修身、齊家、治國、平天下。 女大當婚。 給女孩一個家。
談的, 都是結婚的必要性。 我不否定結婚的必要性。 從家庭承傳及社會延續的角度出發， 結婚及生育是重要的。
然而，我們不可一頭栽進去推進我們以為必要的事。 做生意的，常道成功得靠天時、地利、人和。 將之應用於婚姻, 我想, 美滿的婚姻成就於適當的人物、時間、地點。 請看仔細的看, 我提議的次序是, 人物、時間、地點。 一般人的次序, 應該是, 時間、地點、人物。
要有真的可以相處的對象才結婚吧。 想想, 怎樣跟一個不太合得來的人生活在同一空間? 人愈大, 就愈自戀, 且難於接受身邊的人(尤其是親密連繫的人)做出不為自己接受的行為。 “不為自己接受的行為” 的定義因人而異, 可以是跟鄰居的家傭有頻繁的交談(well, 可以被闡釋為對家傭有意思)。 我呢, 唔接受……唔話你知! 哈哈…
再來, 是時間。 在中國人的社會, 傳統的觀念是婚要在30歲前結婚。 男的成了家才會穩重, 才可更好的發展事業。 女的要”趕”在30歲前結婚, 請看清楚, 係趕!!! 一般的共識為, 30歲都沒結婚的女性, 就是”嫁唔出”, 及”無人要”。 因此, 30歲的”關頭”來臨的時候, 女性的擇偶要求來個359度的改變, 以嫁得出為最終目標, 努力參與pitching activity (well, speed-dating), 將人生的重點, 從工作換到婚姻上頭。 經過一番努力, 姊妹們係30歲零364日嫁出! Yeah!! 恭喜曬! 結婚那天, 應該是, 新郎新娘簽了字那一刻, 很高興, 依單deal 搞0左咁耐, 終於close到! 之後……那結婚之後呢? 每年簽多次retainer contract? 大家每年都很努力地令對方快樂, 務求每年把retainer contract更新, 把婚姻延續下去? 唔好玩. 一般香港人唔會有retainer contract. 結婚係簽紙個一刻就決定0左, no turning back.
重點, 似乎都在達成30歲前結婚的目標, 有多少人在結婚前認真的審視結婚對自己、對另一半的人生會有什麼影響? 大家是否真的相處得來的伴侶? 大家又有想到要令對方快樂嗎?
把婚姻看待成必要做的事, 結了就好了。 在結婚當天要在最好的酒店以最名貴的佳餚招呼賓客, 以排場向各人宣示新人或其家庭的財力。 很可怕. 美滿的婚姻, 不建基於結婚當天盛大的婚禮, 是建基於新人盡心盡力地處理結婚之後的”後續事宜”. “後續事宜”泛指生活上的、情感上的事。
年齡漸增, 看到自己愈來愈大的黑眼圈, 不得不認自己進入明日黃花的階段。 除了黑眼圈, 還有朋友不時傳來的好消息。 每當他/她們告訴我他/她們要結婚了的時候, 我先是恭喜, 再來的, 是問他/她們是否認真考慮才做出結婚的決定。 因為之前看到了不少人在二十來歲結婚的人在結婚兩、三年之後就離婚了, 令我不得不鼓起勇氣向準新人們作出提醒。 離婚也不是什麼天大的事情, 合不來就分開, 總比勉強在一起快樂。 只是, 決定要走在一起成立一個家不易, 分開更難。 太多開心的、傷心的回憶要收在心底才可重新出發。 可以的話, 省了離婚吧?
朋友們, 祝你們有美滿的婚姻! 在我找到新工作的時候, 我會給你們帶來合意的結婚禮物!
但係你地唔好幻想我會借欣欣公主俾你地做結婚公仔, no way! D咁辛苦同危險既野, 我係唔會俾佢做ga…哈哈哈….
咪咪廚房依個環節將會出現得比較頻密......
今日同hallmate一齊煮飯, 我依個咸咪煮0左豉油雞亦, 同favorite菜湯. hallmate煮0左改良版魚香茄子, 即係加0左薯仔絲, 咁煮又幾好食wor, 因為有兩重口感.
我個豉油雞亦都改良0左, 因為唔記得0左買冰糖既關係, 我用0左少少白糖, 另加一湯匙honey去煮, well, 香d...下次試下only用honey......
最感動既係, hallmate仲煲0左飯, 入面, 有...臘腸!!! 天呀, 你對我太好喇!! 個飯簡直香到無人有!
我個喉嚨好痛呀...唔知係咪weekend連打兩日邊邊既結果呢...唉......
題外話, 唔知係咪有人會寄野俾我食呢...
0個個有人自己自首啦...hahahahaha...
說不出原因, 我愛在晚上獨自在劍橋漫步。
晚上七時走在街上, 絕大部份的店子都關門了, 只有在各個書院的窗戶透出了一絲光線。 在暗暗的街上獨自走著的時候, 說不出原因, 彷彿看到了淒美的感覺。 在暗黃的街燈下, 學生都拉緊大衣, 匆匆趕回書院去, 是要趕上在七時半前吃晚飯吧。 大家都是默默的走著, 街上都沒有多餘的噪音, 似乎我們都進入了沉思。
有目的也好, 無目的也罷, 慢慢細步的走著, 看著, 想著。 走在井然有序的小街, 看著四周的建築物, 有大學的書院、有美輪美奐的教堂、更多的是各式各樣的餐館。 看到那麼多討人喜歡的歷史建築, 想, 這些上千年的建築物, 為什麼依然完好無缺, 想, 這一千年的歷史當中包含了的人和事, 想, 古人在劍橋的生活跟我們的有否相異之處......想, 時光飛逝, 我已經來這一個月了...雖然走在淒美中, 但是感到安穩。 從前工作到日出, 一個人坐的士回家的時候, 在東區走廊上看著太陽慢慢在無邊的黑夜中升起的時候, 我一樣嚐到淒美的感覺, 然而, 那時不感到安穩, 只感到混淆。 雖然是一個人走著走著, 但是心裡感充滿了踏實的感覺 - 每秒都彷彿躺在劍橋的懷中, 也同時擁抱著對方。 要好好的享受這奢侈的充實 - 既充實又安穩的生活。 我要活在當下, 如果今天都過得不好, 我們需要更多的明天嗎?
把所有事都看為美好的事, 這, 是劍橋給予我們最大的力量。
今天走在Trinity Lane, 忍不住停下了腳步, 拍了幾幀照片。
朋友仔同我講0左D事, well, 好低潮. umm...好遺憾未能夠同佢周圍食下野, 行下街散心. 大家同一個peer group既, 我一定十足支持!!!!!!!!!! (俾0左10個感嘆號去表達我既決心)
每件事, 都有好同唔好. 我覺得要從正面同反面去睇每一件事. 即係有人覺得我去英國讀書, 係錯既, 因為我要負擔唔少既學費, 又要forgo一年既income. 但係, 從正面既角度出發, cambridge is a once in a life experience which i should not give up. 無錯, 我係付上0左好大既代價, 但係我得到機會去喘息(well, 我唔想再暈低), 同埋去汲取新既知識.
no pain, no gain! 有捨有得.
my dearest friend......今日無錯係learn a lesson in a hard way. 但係, 我絕對相信, 你將會更強勢, 跳上新的出發點. 給你我最好的祝福 
<<有捨有得>>
連連工作, 捨去自我, 得經驗;
理性決擇, 捨去情感, 得事業;
進退有序, 捨去迷惘, 得天下;
時常平靜, 捨去自責, 得快活.
尋日去OXFORD 0個時, 係車上聽到依首歌, 超中意, 因為依首CANTON-POP係正面D, 唔係講失戀, 唔係刀仔插大脾......
其實, 每天都ASSURE自己"原來過得很快樂", then, every day is a nice day
尋日因為update個blog, update到早上5點幾先訓, 正好係香港中午時間, 剛好全宇宙最可愛既客戶online, 問我做咩唔訓, 我話要update我個blog, 人家好激動咁忍唔住要打兩個中文字俾我"無聊" 
,喇, 我要強調, 全宇宙最可愛既客戶平時係唔打中文既.
有幾無聊先? 人家記性唔好呀, 要寫低d野先得...如果唔係, 我好快就記唔起自己係cambridge既日子係點過......同埋, 將美好既事記低, 將來就可以有機會回味下依家做學生既生活 
依家每一日我都同自己講, 原來過得很快樂. 哈哈......今晚又打0左邊邊, so nice
雖然我中意首歌既正面訊息, 但係我覺得呢, well, 唔洗"找到使我自信的人", 自己對自己有信心, "自然會一直動人".
原來過得很快樂
作曲: 伍仲衡
作詞: 林夕
編曲: 伍仲衡
監製: 伍仲衡
原來在快樂中便不必明白快樂
原來愉快共處未必需要學
看情人安躺 看耐了不會自覺 衣著厚薄
原來在他枕邊儘管失眠未畏懼
連自私地吵醒他都是對
未怕被嫌討厭 過份如嫌我顧慮
傻或錯 有心知他允許
原來安心 才能開心
誰還管笑容可吸引
從此纏綿的手勢 塗鴉般都不要緊
遺忘缺憾未靠修行
亦再不必證實我多麽勇敢
找到使我自信的人
自然會一直動人
原來極盼望的幸福可來自意外
原來未靠付出亦得到厚待
從前要被喝采 要被愛刻意自愛 怎會自在
原來誓要做到第一可能是障礙
能坐擁夢想未出於競賽
若對象屬於我 愛情長留脈搏內
門合上 也不擔心躺開
原來安心 才能開心
誰還管笑容可吸引
從此纏綿的手勢 塗鴉般都不要緊
遺忘缺憾未靠修行
亦再不必證實我多麽勇敢
找到使我自信的人
未完美便會一直動人
原來安心 才能開心
才能怎放任也吸引
從此纏綿的手勢 塗鴉般都不要緊
遺忘缺憾未靠修行
亦再不必證實我多麽勇敢
找到使我自信的人
自然會一直動人
曾經與某人一吻 動心得不放心
如此小心再愛亦不合襯
朋友仔忽然話去bicester village, 好啦, 去啦...好彩有去, 我終於理解到, 點解自由神對香港咁重要. 我地5個人, 係0個到行0左6個鍾, 我對腳真係好攰好攰......
依到, 只係我地5個人買0左既三分一, 仲有好多, 因為拎唔曬, 一買完就拎番去車到...放好0左, 再行. 好彩bicester village唔大, 如果唔係, 行出去car park再番入去, 攰死人...
你地唔好睇少依到既野...入面好似有max mara coat * 2, dior男裝*5, gucci shoes*3, gucci shirts *5, armani * 10 etc etc...真係癲0左...
佢地買既野, 加埋, 係一個big4 graduate6個月既收入...應該有...
晚上去0左oxford既流金歲月食飯, 都唔錯, 環境真係好好.
食完飯, 好0左朋友仔係oxford 既office到睇下......
4對鞋......
我從來都無諗過, 我係英國讀書, 可以有咁多鞋......
前幾日有invitation去參加一個dinner gathering, 見得閒, 就參加0左喇. 係round church既gatheirng, 大家食dinner同mingle around同埋聽一個talk "how to be very successful"...好中意rounch church, 佢係cambridge第2舊既建築物, 外面睇就真係幾舊, 但係入面好decent 當晚全晚有3個職業音樂家演奏曲目, 真係好正! thanks so much to those responsible for this gathering!
So, James, the speaker on "How to be very successful" quoted what the Jesus said "Whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it. What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?" The Bible (Mark 8:35-36)
well...this topic has been haunting a few friends of mine recently....i wish that you all are all well and not lost in life.
when i was on my way home......
上周六去0左london, 一方面係行下街, 買一d必需品, 一方面係見下就快生日既好耐無見既朋友. 朋友仔瘦0左又令0左呢, 好羨慕! 祝佢今個星期日生日快樂and, 早日康復, 睇到佢行得有d辛苦, 真係好d擔心......
8點起身行0左25分鐘去parkers peace到坐coach....去到london embankment到落車. 時間尚早, 就行0左陣, 再係charing cross坐tube去soho食lunch.
晚上係朋友屋企煮飯俾佢食...哈哈, 因為有比較多時間, 我煮0左一個比較需要功夫既dish, 就係, 登登登登, 咕嚕魚!!! 好耐好耐好耐 (我估最少有5年), 無煮過咕嚕既菜式..因為要開油鑊炸野...我怕煩嘛. 所以少煮. 但係佢竟生日, 俾下面啦...哈哈哈...煮0左3樣野.
蒜蓉炒西蘭花
咕嚕魚 (我仲專登炸0左d魚兩次, make sure佢夠脆, 個味都ok, 但係可以煮得再好d, 始終太多年無煮依個dish了)
又係我煮得唔錯既豉油朱肉, yummy! 依個真係煮得好, 唔係自己讚自己, d汁唔太多, 但係好dense, d肉好入味得黎又唔會"鞋".
